Cómo coño haces? How the hell do you do it? Six Life's Lessons...

So the other day I received a very flattering email from the younger sister of one of my best friends. You know how sometimes you see yourself differently from how other people see you? So this is one of those cases.

Anyhow… she began her email telling me that she wanted to ask me an “existential question”– existential meaning “philosophical life question”. She told me she was having a really bad day, and wanted to find out how come every time she sees me I am laughing and super happy… and she wondered: “Cómo coño haces? (How the hell do you do it?) Do you have a special technique to keep the cool and the sense of humor?” Obviously, she doesn't live with me because my husband, my daughters, my cats and my dog, Lobo, would tell you otherwise!

She felt like just leaving everything behind and disappearing because it was one of “those days”… and then she said she wanted to reach out to her “wise role models” (that’s me???) of how the hell to survive those days when you just want to escape!

So being the “wise role model” that I am, I took a few moments and I replied from the heart, realizing that in doing so, I listed a few lessons that I've learned along my years of existence and that I’ll like to share with you…

Lesson # 1: LAUGH! Laugh a lot! It works out your abs and it makes you feel good!

Lesson # 2: We all have bad days!! And that’s perfectly fine!! Embrace bad days, embrace wanting to cry, embrace everything that comes your way, good AND bad, embrace it all… UNDERSTAND THAT IT IS OK TO BE IN A BAD MOOD OR HAVE A BAD DAY, because that’s LIFE!! Today we’re here and tomorrow we’re not, so what the hell are we going to be miserable if in just a second it could all be gone and mean nothing!

Lesson # 3: Make plans, something to look forward to: a trip, a dinner, an outing, a party with loved ones…. Anything that you can look forward to and get through a long day at work or school! When you look forward to something, you get in a good mood!!

Lesson # 4: It doesn't matter how terrible you may feel inside, don’t go strolling around the world sharing that with everyone! Smiles multiple smiles! Laughter multiplies laughter! Positive thoughts multiply positive thoughts! Always have a smile on your face because it will make you feel better at the end of the day! You know what I do sometimes? I make a point of being super nice to a cashier or a total stranger who looks upset or sad... make them smile!! It will make you feel great!! Good thoughts, good energy, good vibes attract the same, so try to surround yourself with people who have that to offer you!! Of course this doesn't mean that you can’t call a friend to share a problem or if you’re sad… that’s what good friends and family are for! 

LESSON # 5: It’s no secret that life sometimes sucks, things happen… we can’t be in control of everything… when that time comes, make sure you are surrounded by people who fill your heart and soul with love and warmth, people who can guide you and walk with you through dark times. 

LESSON # 6: When we’re having a bad day out there, our homes feel so much cozier… so come in, close the door, sit back, relax, and surround yourself with loved ones!

A dear cousin of mine once asked me: “Are you happy?” And I told him what I heard once: “Happiness is a state of the moment. You’re happy now, but you may be sad in an hour. What you have to be is at peace with yourself, and learn to accept and embrace everything that comes your way.”

Now back to that previous statement:  Wise? Role Model? Me? Like I said at the beginning… sometimes we see ourselves differently from how other people see us… but that we’ll leave for another blog.